Defusion involves distancing, disconnecting or seeing thoughts and feelings
for what they are (streams of words, passing sensations), not what they say they
are (dangers or facts).
Notice what’s happening – your thoughts,
physical sensations, emotions, images, memories. Notice the way you’re
interpreting what they mean, and how that’s affecting you.
Notice the unhelpful thoughts. It can help to
say them differently, in a non-threatening way: slowly, in a squeaky or comic
voice or write them down.
Identify the emotion you’re
feeling, and label the unhelpful thoughts
an evaluation
a prediction
a feeling
a sensation
a justification
a memory
a thinking error (mind-reading, negative
filter, catastrophising, personalising etc)
Learn more and practice mindfulness so that you
can be aware of when you are in the present moment rather than being ‘in your
head’ - perhaps the past or future. Notice what you don’t normally notice –
sights, sounds, sensations, thoughts, textures etc.
Use metaphors try to see things differently.
E.g.
Passengers on the Bus
You in the driving seat, all passengers
(thoughts) chattering, being critical or shouting out direction. You can
allow them to shout, but can keep focused on the road ahead.
Victim 2 – challenges the bully (bully
eventually gives up)
Victim 3 – acknowledges then ignores the
bully, changing focus of attention.
The River
Items floating down the river – perhaps
leaves or bits of mucky debris (thoughts, feelings, images) – instead of
struggling to stay afloat, we can stand on the bank watching it all go by
The Beach Ball
We try to hold the ball under water, but it
keeps popping up (thoughts). We can allow the ball to float around us,
not intruding.
Thought train
Either watching the scenery go by, or
standing on platform watching the thought train pass by – we don’t have to
jump on it.
The Tunnel
When we get anxious driving through a
tunnel, the best option is to keep going to the other end, rather than
stop or look for an exit in the tunnel.
The Mountain
Whatever the weather, or whatever happens
on the surface of the mountain, and even within it – the mountain stands
firm, mostly unaffected. Strong, grounded, permanent.